Newton’s third law says-” For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction”. Is it a matter of perspective? Focus on the attraction and save the repulsion for later? Sometimes that attraction is so great it sweeps you in and haunts your mind.
Allan Watts taught about Zen back in the 50′s.The Taboo against knowing who you are - changed my thinking greatly. This you-tube clip is an animated version of some of his talks. animation is by the createos of South Park (without the potty humor) I share what I love.